So this is Candace and I. Can you tell who's who? Well that's ok because we can. I am the one with brown hair and blue eyes... oh wait that is both of us... ok I am the tall one.
So that is what we look like.
Recently I got a private message from a friend on a private board where I post. A friend of hers knew Candace from another board where Candace used to post and she had been hoping to keep up with our journey and was wondering if we had a blog somewhere that she could read. So I spoke with Candace and we decided it would be fun to have a blog and so here is our journey to baby.
I met Candace online in October. I had finally decided that I was ready to begin this chapter of my life. Becoming a surrogate for someone special had been something I had been wanting to do for years. My husband and I are now done having our own children and Scott sealed the deal almost 2 years ago with the big snip. Anyhow, since I didn't have any friends who needed me I figured I would find someone on my own. I posted an ad on one of the surrogate websites and within hours I had a few replies. I responded to everyone but only one reply really stuck out in my mind. We emailed back and forth for a few weeks but in my mind she was the one. There were so many things that stuck out to me. She was so open about herself and her needs in this process as was I with her. The one thing I wasn't sure I would find was someone who was open to my birthing preferences. Having had 2 of my 3 children at home, I much prefer to give birth in my home with a trained professional, of course knowing that most women who are seeking a surrogate have suffered unimaginable losses I of course was(am) open to giving birth in a hospital. I think the fact that I was open to a home(natural) birth for the couple I ultimately decided to help was what made Candace email me to begin with. We are both very natural minded people and it didn't take us long to come to the conclusion that we were a match! Of course I never in my mind imagined I would be matched that soon and had a time line that I needed to stick to before I could start the medical part of this journey. Candace has been so patient waiting for me.
We met face to face in January when Candace flew down here. She and her daughter spent a weekend with my family. It was a fun time for all of us. We went to the museum and ate lunch at this amazing vegan cafe, we had dinner at my house and just talked a lot. It didn't feel like two women meeting for the first time but friends just getting together for a weekend.
We finally got everything in order and were gearing up for a June transfer. I had a mock cycle in April to see how my lining would react to the meds. Everything went well and within 2 weeks I had a nice and thick lining. I stopped the meds and we waited for my period to start.... waited... when she was due she didn't come and so we waited a little more. By that time we realized that something was going on and I went in for blood work and an ultrasound. At that point we found a huge cyst had developed on my ovary. UGH! We had to wait for it to subside and my period to come before we could proceed. 2 weeks late, AF finally arrived! So that pushed us back into a July transfer. A small set back but it's ok because we are here now and we have both FINALLY started our meds to have a baby! On Monday I took my last birth control pill and started my Lurpon injections(they so do not hurt at all, easy peasy!) and on Tuesday Candace took her last birth control pill and started her Lurpon injections.
So this is where we are at!
